What does the Bible say about resolving conflict?
Quick answer
Jesus’ rule in Matthew 18:15–17: go directly to the person, privately. Bring a witness if needed. Involve the church only if needed. The aim is restored relationship, not winning an argument.
Resist gossip. The person who hurt you is not first a topic for your friends; they are first a person to talk to honestly.
Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). Truth without love wounds; love without truth enables. Both together heal.
Where you cannot resolve, take the steps the Bible commands, then forgive in your heart even if the other won’t reconcile. Conscience clear; soul free.
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Original BibleDawn answer · reviewed 2026-06. Drafted with AI assistance and reviewed for accuracy.