How can I save a difficult marriage?
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Most struggling marriages can be healed — not by either spouse changing the other, but by both turning to Christ first, repenting, pursuing humility, getting real help, and rebuilding trust patiently over time.
Start with yourself, not your spouse. What is mine to repent of? "First take the log out of your own eye" (Matthew 7:5).
Get help: a wise pastor, a Christian counselor, a marriage intensive. Many marriages need professional help; that is not weakness.
In cases of abuse, addiction, or persistent unfaithfulness, separation may be necessary for safety while you work toward healing. Get safe; get help; get wise counsel.
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